Random thread: Where's your postcount now, (tpd) bitch

[Static]

Have been so very tired these last few months and seems no amount of sleep will actually make me feel awake.  I hope this doesn't carry on.

[Goose]

Well, our time with Phoenix has an official schedule now.  Phoenix has been having visits with his mom at his mom's house, mostly unsupervised, for a couple of weeks now, and everything is going very well.  He had his first overnight visit on Friday night, and as could be expected he didn't sleep much that night.  It'll take some getting used to for the little guy, that's for sure.

He has a few more overnight visits between now and the end of the month.  After his birthday party at the end of the month, he has his first week-long visit while my wife and I go on a vacation of sorts.  After that, the visits last 5-6 days with a couple nights back at our place, and then on the morning of August 21st, he goes for two weeks.  Assuming there's no problems during those two weeks (and that's highly unlikely), he won't be coming back.

I'm not handling this well, that's all I'll say.  Even though I know he's going where he belongs, I'm still losing my little guy.

[luna]

That's sad goose

At least you can know that you did such a great thing for him in the time you had

[r00]

That is completely heartbreaking, Goose.  I don't know what to say other than I feel really awful for you and your wife right now.  Would Phoenix return to you if mom fell off the wagon again? 

I am so sorry.

[Goose]

Would Phoenix return to you if mom fell off the wagon again? 

Yeah, we'd be the first ones Social Services would call if Phoenix ended up back in foster care.  But, given what I've seen, that's extremely unlikely. 

[doom]

  condolences, Goose.

[videodrone]

*hugs Goose*

I'm sorry.

drone

[rokken like dokken]

That's rough, man - sorry to hear about all that. 

[tim]

Foster parents impress me because you willingly take the hardest, most challenging and most potentially painful path. I know someone who's done it throughout his life, fostering something like 30 children. Keep up the good work if you can cope with it.

[sin]

given what I've seen, that's extremely unlikely.

From the child's perspective, this is a good thing, no?  It must be awful to live through it as a foster parent, but I can only imagine what joy the biological parent must feel at being reunited with their child after successfully bettering themselves. 

[Static]

I mean no disrespect to you Goose, but I have to agree with not TPD.  I'm sure it's utterly heartbreaking for you and I'm sorry you're having to go through this, but from the childs perspective, he has his mother back, he has another chance to actually have his real family instead of growing up wondering what could have been, all the questions, the why's etc.  I'm glad for him.  You should also be proud of yourselves for your part in his life.

[sin]

<---- Not TPD :p

Also, the last two sentences of your post = complete agreement

[Static]

Oops, fixed! *embaressment*

[Goose]

From the child's perspective, this is a good thing, no?  It must be awful to live through it as a foster parent, but I can only imagine what joy the biological parent must feel at being reunited with their child after successfully bettering themselves.

It totally is a good thing, and I don't mean to detract from that at all.  Phoenix's mom has worked really hard both to put her life together and reunite her family, and succeeded in so many ways.  Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to be giving me enough consolation to stop me from being sadder than I've ever been in my life.

[sin]

Yeah, I can only imagine what kind of torture you're going through after thoroughly emotionally committing to this child.  I didn't mean in any way to diminish the love you feel as a parent (I know you weren't saying I was, but I wanted to reiterate).  I don't think I could possibly deal with that sort of pain: of giving up a child, even knowing full well that it was in the child's best interests.  It has to hurt REALLY bad and I'm sorry you have to feel this way.  In the words of Marcus Aurelius: "Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present," as in, the strength that fortified you enough to be a foster parent in the first place will be sufficient to sustain you through the pain of this separation.