Are you pissed off? I'm pissed off. Vent Thread.

[rokken like dokken]

Wtf his wife just left him there?

That was ours and his reactions too.  At any rate, he IS out of the ICU today and is starting physical therapy tomorrow; I went to see him today and he's his normal self mentally.  Progress! 

[Aaron]

Damn dude. That is fucking terrible. Hope the physical therapy helps a lot!

[boom]

While I hope he heals physically, it's probably more important for him mentally to realize he's married to a psycho. I hope everything goes well for him.

Goose, I'm so sorry to hear about the little girl.

[luna]

That sucks goose

Have you considered adopting from overseas or is it too pricey?

[Goose]

Way too pricey, for us at least.  To adopt from Haiti or Russia, two of the cheapest countries around for such things, would still run us about $40,000 once travel and legal expenses were all added up.  It doesn't help that there aren't any lawyers in Saskatchewan that'll actually handle stuff like this, so that just adds to the costs of having to deal with a lawyer in Alberta. 

Private adoption is also basically off the table unless someone knows someone who knows us specifically.  There are a lot of private adoptions that happen, but they're all through church-based organizations.  With me being atheist and my wife being agnostic, those organizations will just show us the door instead of taking us seriously.

[luna]

Ugh that really sucks goose

[r00]

dokken, best wishes for your brother to get through this stuff and be ok.  I still can't believe his wife leaving him like that.

goose, stories like that break my heart.  There is nothing that makes me more sad than selfish atrocities to children, especially when it comes from someone who makes them pay for their own drug habits before they are even born.  Good luck with the adoption search.  I'm glad you two are being smart about it and getting second opinions, etc.

[Stariki]

I feel for ya Goose... hope the day comes you are able to complete your family.

For those of you who suffer from depression or know someone who does... this guy is brilliant! He really "Gets" it!

http://depressioncomix.wordpress.com/

[r00]

new job fail.  8(
Was notified today by my friend there that they filled the position internally.

fuck this really makes my year.  Back to the drawing board.  I feel like I had an escape tunnel dug under the prison and just found out the guards filled in the hole.

[luna]

[Aaron]

Damn r00 that sucks . Here's to finding a new place!

[Aaron]

Ugh. So I put in my transfer in the middle of June (like the 10thish.) I told the main HR lady (well we call them personal managers but same thing.) ANYHOO I called up to Renton last Friday, and no one was there to help me. SO I called again Monday. Got a hold of the HR person. She was really nice and helpful. Their store is smaller then mine (granted they don't have a grocery section, just general merchandise.) They do have a few opening (of jobs I would take. Some of them would even be a raise in pay.) However it's more up the the HR person in my store to fax up my last eval and attendance up to them... I had to go and ask the other hr lady to do it for me.

Hopefully I get the job.

I have been looking around up there for warehouse jobs, and a lot of the stuff is what I have been doing. Only more so. (Less stocking shelves, more pick thing up put it down.) Which is really what kind of work I would like to do. Simple and easy (mentally) and if I can find a cold storage place even better!

[Static]

dokken, that sucks balls.  Just remember, though, that those types of injuries aren't always permanent.  Think of Dave Mustaine.  He basically did the exact same thing to his arm, and doctors told him he'd never play guitar again.  One year later, new Megadeth album.  It can get better.

Dave Mustaine's ability to bring out more albums is not a good thing!!  That said, I hope for damn sure like your statement says, that Dokken's brother can recover in the same way.

In my life-sucks file, my wife and I recently got offered the adoption of a 3.5 year-old girl.  Supposedly, her only problems were some ADHD-type symptoms, but we were urged to take her medical records to our own doctor to review.  Our doctor wants to hurt people in the clinic that's evaluated her, because its pretty clear she's got more than ADHD, probably fetal-alcohol syndrome if not more.  Her biological mom claims she was clean during the pregnancy, but that's total bullshit (how much can you really trust a meth addict anyways). It just sucks, because adoption chances are so rare, and we had to turn this one away because her problems will be way more than my wife and I can handle in the long run. It feels totally shitty turning that opportunity down, but its probably less shitty than taking on a girl that was messed up by who-knows-what before she was even born.

That is heartbreakingly tough

To comment on your other post regarding this situation, I guess this shows my almost complete lack of knowledge in how the system works and my naivety to it, but god damn, I had no idea that as a foster parent, you would have to foot the bills for so many things, I honestly thought the organisations dealt with the legal costs and getting them to you.

[Goose]

Dave Mustaine's ability to bring out more albums is not a good thing!!

Your opinions are bad and you should feel bad.

To comment on your other post regarding this situation, I guess this shows my almost complete lack of knowledge in how the system works and my naivety to it, but god damn, I had no idea that as a foster parent, you would have to foot the bills for so many things, I honestly thought the organisations dealt with the legal costs and getting them to you.

If we were going to foster her, there might've been a little extra assistance, but not much.  We were being considered for adoption, which means she'd be ours completely, not just in our care while still a ward of the state.  That being said, financially speaking there still would've been some supports, as given her situation it would've been considered an "assistive" adoption, whatever the hell that means, but it wouldn't have been enough to ensure my wife could keep her job or keep us at that income level.  Taking care of this girl would've been a full-time job on its own, if not more, and we just weren't ready for that level of commitment.  I sure hope that girl finds a home that can raise her properly though, she deserves it.

With regards to foreign adoption though, when it comes to costs, around here you're on your own.  There are no government programs designed to make it easier, probably because they don't want it to be easier.  We've got a ton of kids in this country already that need homes and parents, just most won't take them on because they've got problems or aren't infants.  In this area, this country is horribly mismanaged, and it'll never get fixed until it becomes an election issue.  But it'll never be an election issue, because most people aren't affected by it at all.  For most of the people I know, I'm the only foster parent they know.  Its a totally hidden issue that isn't widely cared about, yet costs a ton of money and mismanagement hurts tons of kids. 

Ok, I'm going to stop ranting now...

[sin]

Fuck this heat-wave.  Just got my electric bill and it is a DISGUSTINGLY high number.  It is mathematically impossible for me to pay my electric bill this month, so I'm already trying to figure out how I'll be able to pay it NEXT month, plus (hopefully) next months charges in addition.  I've even been trying to use energy less, but there's not a lot you can do when it's 100 degrees.  Run the A/C or basically die, or at least wish I was dead.