Are you pissed off? I'm pissed off. Vent Thread.

[Stariki]

So... this silly old fart took a tumble on thursday night, tripped and landed on the finger tips of my left hand which were not strong enough  to slow down 110kgs of me hurtling through the air, and promptly hyper-extended in the attempt! I thought I'd broken all four fingers but doc says no. Swollen and blue, "my hands felt just like two one balloon" 

[luna]

i don't know if you're helping your old man status by quoting a 30 year old song



(ok I did listen to The Wall earlier this week)

[Stariki]

My old man status needs no help... I have embraced the inevitable! 

[Aaron]

i don't know if you're helping your old man status by quoting a 30 year old song



(ok I did listen to The Wall earlier this week)

Maybe you shouldn't listen to old man music    I didn't even know it was a lyric till you said something. I thought it was just something old people say...

However that sucks about the hand. Hope it gets better soon!

[Static]

Maybe I wasn't clear; she payed for ALL OF IT (outside of the tip), which was always her intention.  THAT'S why I felt like shit.  I asked her to never let my dad find out that I had allowed a woman to drop that kind of cash on me, because he would probably punch me in the face if he ever found out.

She comes from money, and despite the fact that we don't live together or anything, money has been something of a contentious issue with us, as she lives off an inheritance, and sometimes I find myself resenting her cavalier attitude toward spending money when I've been pinching pennies for so long.

I don't really see the problem, it didn't seem to me that she expected you to pay anything, just that she wanted to do something nice and get you out of your shell.  If she's taking you out because she thinks that it would make you happy, then just say thank you and enjoy your time with her instead of worrying about it, because it sounds more like she wanted to do something nice and you made it into a negative experience for yourself with some sort of self-imposed pressure/insecurities.

I really don't understand where so many people get the "men have to pay for EVERYTHING" idea from.  Sorry, I don't agree, never have.  I spend a lot of money on my girlfriend, but I don't carry her and if she wants to take me out for once, I'll say yes and let her pay guilt free.   It hardly makes you less of a man to have a good time with your significant other if you don't pay every single time and quite frankly it's laughable at the notion that any woman can go through life expecting everything to be paid for and still think there's equality.

As for the cost, if she's not making it an issue, why are you?  When you go out and buy a girl a gift, do you think about getting one back and that it has to be exact monetary value or more?  I doubt it....

[sin]

Well, even before I read your post, I had already come to the conclusion that you're absolutely right.  My traditional male pride took a hit, but it took me a couple of days before I realized that that was irrelevant.  I guess my real point was less an issue with her and more an issue with me, and my personal insecurities.  Again, sorry to blog directly onto PI 

[individualzero]

Hey bro, I'm sure no one minds a vent (lord knows the internet has probably seen worse vents than "my rich girlfriend bought me a $100 steak and I feel bad about it").

Think of it like this: She wouldn't spend the money on you if she didn't think you were worth blowing money on, right? Feel good about it, IMHO.

[TPD]

she can take me to dinner instead if you want...

[Static]

Well, even before I read your post, I had already come to the conclusion that you're absolutely right.  My traditional male pride took a hit, but it took me a couple of days before I realized that that was irrelevant.  I guess my real point was less an issue with her and more an issue with me, and my personal insecurities.  Again, sorry to blog directly onto PI 

Nothing worth an apology and I'm sorry if anything came across as dickish, I'm sure social anxiety is nothing to scoff over and I understand how it can affect your way of thinking in these circumstances, but the only thing I can say is to try and relax and let it flow naturally.  If there's no problem, don't fix it - over thinking situations can just cause you more problems later.

[r00]

Big thanks out to all the greedy motherfuckers and bureaucrats out there who try and fuck us every chance they get.  I just love seeing that my mortgage payment has increased by $150 per month because of home insurance and property tax increases.  Keep fucking us on one side of your mouth, yet on the other report about record foreclosures and property decreases.

Tell me this...  who's home has actually gone up in market value over the past few years in this economy?  Just because you have overspent your budgets in the billions doesn't mean you can make up for it by increasing taxes and rates on the rest of us.  When the working people of this country finally decide to really do something about it, you will be first against the wall or swinging from a tree.

[Aaron]

It's almost comical how understaffed we are at work. My department normally has 5 people (1 over nighter and 4 day people.) Right now we have 2. And it isn't just my department. It's my side of the store... And it takes a long time to hire people (for whatever reason, they want people that are squeeky fucking clean. And there is two interviews and a ua and back ground check as well.) A lot of people get hired at some other place before all that can happen. It's awesome.

[rokken like dokken]

This has been the worst weekend of my life.  I found out on Thursday that my brother was in the hospital comatose because he had mixed alcohol with oxycontin - somewhat untrue, I found out, because he actually had been awake but was merely sedated.   But what had actually happened was, he had taken them and passed out and been left in one position for 12 hours or so (his wife seems to be a pathological liar so the story keeps changing), which basically meant that the muscles on his left side were crushed by the weight of his body and when his wife/friend let him lay there for 12 hours and the paramedics finally arrived, his injuries were consistent with being crushed by part of a building, and now his life is a shambles and he feels betrayed and......

.....ok, maybe it's been my brother who's had the worst weekend of his life.  Let me think about how to rephrase this. 

[kristin]

Jesus. that's intense. I'm sorry.

[luna]

Wtf his wife just left him there?

[Goose]

dokken, that sucks balls.  Just remember, though, that those types of injuries aren't always permanent.  Think of Dave Mustaine.  He basically did the exact same thing to his arm, and doctors told him he'd never play guitar again.  One year later, new Megadeth album.  It can get better.

In my life-sucks file, my wife and I recently got offered the adoption of a 3.5 year-old girl.  Supposedly, her only problems were some ADHD-type symptoms, but we were urged to take her medical records to our own doctor to review.  Our doctor wants to hurt people in the clinic that's evaluated her, because its pretty clear she's got more than ADHD, probably fetal-alcohol syndrome if not more.  Her biological mom claims she was clean during the pregnancy, but that's total bullshit (how much can you really trust a meth addict anyways). It just sucks, because adoption chances are so rare, and we had to turn this one away because her problems will be way more than my wife and I can handle in the long run. It feels totally shitty turning that opportunity down, but its probably less shitty than taking on a girl that was messed up by who-knows-what before she was even born.